The Strange Adventures of Doctor Oddfellow
February 2012
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“True gender equality is actually perceived as inequality. A group that is made up of 50% women is perceived as being mostly women. A situation that is perfectly equal between men and women is perceived as being biased in favor of women.
And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.”
My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality – my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.” —
And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.”
My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality – my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.” —
- Lucy, When Worlds Collide: Fandom and Male Privilege. (via seaofbadstories)
(via stfufauxminists)
I kept my last name. And because of that both men and women view me as a lesser person. Instead of being seen as my own person. I have been seen as a homewrecking whore. I have to constantly explain why I kept my last name.
(via theomnisquid)
On the other hand, in my own personal observations, I’ve noticed that there are a lot of people who look down at disdain at women who change their last name as if they were some sort of unevolved traitor to the gender or something of the ilk and for some of those women, that’s a very uncomfortable feeling as well. If they explain they do it out of love, they’ll be treated very condescendingly like some child who doesn’t really know any better.
Its a situation that I don’t think has an easy answer to address it with, especially when there’s people on both sides looking at the other less than friendly like that.
