And if you don’t believe me, you’ve never been a married woman who kept her family name. I have had students hold that up as proof of my “sexism.”
My own brother told me that he could never marry a woman who kept her name because “everyone would know who ruled that relationship.” Perfect equality – my husband keeps his name and I keep mine – is held as a statement of superiority on my part.” —
I kept my last name. And because of that both men and women view me as a lesser person. Instead of being seen as my own person. I have been seen as a homewrecking whore. I have to constantly explain why I kept my last name.
On the other hand, in my own personal observations, I’ve noticed that there are a lot of people who look down at disdain at women who change their last name as if they were some sort of unevolved traitor to the gender or something of the ilk and for some of those women, that’s a very uncomfortable feeling as well. If they explain they do it out of love, they’ll be treated very condescendingly like some child who doesn’t really know any better.
Its a situation that I don’t think has an easy answer to address it with, especially when there’s people on both sides looking at the other less than friendly like that.